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How to spend less time worrying and more time celebrating on your wedding day

How to spend less time worrying and more time celebrating on your wedding day

Okay, it’s your wedding day, you can expect a whole lot of camera in your face. Your jaw will ache, your smile will wobble and despite being the happiest you’ve ever been, you’ll beg for a second to take a break from smiling. I’m not even kidding.

But when you’re surrounded by your family and friends and your new husband and all the beautiful details of your wedding day, you’ll smile.

And it’ll touch the corners of your eyes.

And you’ll be beautiful. 

Because that’s what brides are; beautiful, smiling versions of themselves dressed in an exquisite gown.

Here are my five top tips on how to spend less time worrying in front of the camera (with a wobbly smile) and more time celebrating on your wedding day.

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Choose a photographer on more than just their work. Choose them. Choose their personality, make sure  you click with them. Because if you’re comfortable in front of your photographer, you’ll relax, knowing your photography is in good hands. And a relaxed bride is beautiful. 

Your photographer will love the confidence in them and will photograph all those spontaneous moments without you even realising.

I love giving photographs to a couple and hearing afterwards how I captured moments they weren’t even aware of. 

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Work with your maid of honour, wedding planner, photographer, whoever it may be, to set up a wedding timeline for your day. This alleviates any stress and you can spend more time celebrating with bubbly, and less time wondering what’s next on the agenda.

Let the service providers you’ve trusted for your day worry about that. And by ensuring your photographer knows exactly what’s going on, they’ll be there to capture it all.



Your photographer is there to tell a story. Your story.

And they’ll want to do it in the most creative way possible.

If you’ve hired the right photographer, trust them. Listen to their ideas and suggestions and trust them when they ask you to venture down an old path or off the beaten track. The more open you are to your photographer’s suggestions, the better the results will be.

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Chat to your photographer ahead of the time if you’re a little uncomfortable in front of the camera. I’m incredibly shy in front of the camera and am all double-chin and awkward faces the minute I see a camera pointed in my direction. You don’t want that on your wedding day.

An experienced photographer will be able to help you relax and make sure you get natural, beautiful photographs. Letting them know ahead of time of any insecurities will help too.

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Things may not always go according to plan.

Your seating plan may get a little muddled, it may rain or hail and your favourite aunt might not make it for the speeches.

Just breathe. 

Soak it all up, smell your wedding flowers, eat your wedding cake, hold your husband’s hand… Don’t let this day go without cherishing every. single. moment.

Know that if you make your day truly ‘you’, and you’re celebrating together in all that love and joy, you’re guaranteed a beautifully captured story.


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Sentimental bride: Holding onto happiness

Sentimental bride: Holding onto happiness




noun: sentimentality; plural noun: sentimentalities

excessive tenderness, sadness, or nostalgia.
“there are passages which verge on sentimentality”

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I’m a sucker for sentimentality. Maybe that’s why I’m a photographer. I get to photograph moments and freeze them in an image.

I’m so sentimental that I do things a certain way or wear jewellery or perfume so that I can be completely surrounded by all the nostalgia.

When I photograph weddings, I wear my wedding perfume bought by my sister. It’s a bottle of Vera Wang’s Princess and it’s the most beautiful smell in the world to me.

When I wear it, I’m reminded of all that happiness and love from our wedding day and of our honeymoon in Thailand. Brides who have a new, special perfume just for their wedding day will cherish that smell and know what I’m talking about.

I see so many sentimental moments at weddings and being able to photograph that for a bride is such a privilege.

I love the memory frames hidden in bouquets, the secret messages pinned to dresses from moms, the earrings from grooms, the perfumes… I love meaning and finding it in everything. 

My sister had a beautiful garter made for me for our wedding day that I made sure I never threw on the night. Christiaan had to turn around on the highway on our way to our wedding weekend, just to buy another garter which landed up costing a pretty penny from a bridal boutique in Hilton. There’s no ways I was going to lose the special one my sister had given to me as a gift.

It’s a soft lace piece, made by Loryn from Loryn Loves (who now lives in Australia) and has our wedding date hand stitched onto it in blue. It’s an incredible gift and if you’re a maid of honour reading this, I hope it’s given you an idea. 😉

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date1The garter stays in its little box that it came in, in my drawer, together with a flower clip I wore in my hair and as of recently, our first positive pregnancy test. I told you I was sentimental! 

Maybe one day, our daughter will wear the garter to her wedding with her own wedding date hand stitched onto it in blue.

Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, right?


Over the years, I’ve let go of loads of sentimental stuff and have started to appreciate moments, people, feelings, emotions far more than worldly goods.

I find treasuring images and emotions far more meaningful. The way something makes you feel, cherish that. The way a photograph makes your heart feel? Keep that.

Because when the perfume runs out and the lace starts to yellow, all that’s really left, is the emotions (and photographs!).



PS. If you want to read stories from a sentimental bride, read this blog here. Indieberries has no professional wedding photographs from her day (it’s a sad story and you can read it here) but as you’ll find out from reading her blog, she’s an optimist and now wears her wedding dress (and her husband gets dressed up to0!) around the world. Brilliant idea! 


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