Congratulations! That you have found your way to this blog post tells me that he’s been down on one knee and you’re flashing a new diamond on your left finger!

I’m not sure if it’s the holiday season or the year end bonus, but December is a very popular time for guys (and girs!) to propose! Christiaan proposed to me on New Year’s Eve in 2010. It had been a remarkable year for South Africa with the Soccer World Cup and an even better end for us with a proposal on the beach in Kenton-on-Sea.

Christiaan chose a super windy, overcast day to do it too, but it was still incredible. We went horse riding on the beach just before sunset and after a little journey by horseback, we came across a message written in the sand, “Tanya, will you marry me?”

The rest, as they say, is history.


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You may be feeling excited, overwhelmed with no idea where to start or eager to get going with all the planning.

Here are a few of my tips on getting you started and on your way to the chapel.

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Celebrate… And set a date

Pop the champagne, take multiple ring shots and share the moments with your nearest and dearest.

They’ll want to know a date so between celebratory kisses, discuss a date that feels right to you and your future husband. If you’re unsure of a date, set the year. Guests who need to to travel will appreciate knowing so they can start saving.

Think of the time of year, favourite month, travel seasons and venue availability when deciding on a date.

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 Decide what you both love

Scroll online, visit my Pinterest boards or buy a few wedding magazines to get inspired. Imagine what kind of style and vibe you want for your wedding.

Weddings should be a celebration of YOU BOTH so getting your significant other involved is important.

There’s no rules when it comes to your own wedding. If  you both love picnics, forests and being barefoot, go for that! I love picnic weddings out on the lawn!

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 Book your venue and your photographer

Venues and photographers can get booked up 12 months in advance so if you don’t snap up your favourites, they’ll be taken pretty quickly. Certain times of the year are high season for weddings and there’s only so many Saturday’s in Spring/ April/ May/ September! The same applies for any other service provider who have your heart set on for your wedding day – book them early!

When it comes to choosing a venue, look for a property that suits your style. We opted for a classical wedding and chose Providence in the Midlands for its sophistication, timeless appeal and of course, the exceptional service and food!


Set a budget

Even if it’s just to decide on priorities and where you should save or spend, setting a budget will help you.

Start with a simple Excel spreadsheet, determine what it’s important to you (excellent venue, photographer, flowers etc) and work from there.

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Pick your team

Girls to the left, boys to the right; it’s time to pick your bridal party! You’ll want your best girls at your side and he’ll want his mates too. Decide whose important to you, and think of a creative way to ask them to stand by your side.

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Get to it

Once you have set your date and locked down your venue and photographer, breathe and enjoy the time it takes to find the perfect make up artist, florist and so on for your day. You’re only going to do this once, so enjoy the journey!

If you’d like to chat about your wedding and receive my 2016 wedding packages, please get in touch here! I’d love to hear from you!


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